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Written by: Raymond Fohjem

The stages of getting over someone

The stages of getting over someone

The purpose of this article isn't really focused on getting over breakup, but rather, the stages that someone unconsciously go through in order to get over the lost of someone or someone who died.

This is because, after the lost of someone precious, we undergo certain unconscious processes which are sometimes called; the stages of recovery and very few people know about this.

The reason why people who took very long time or never managed to get over someone isn't because they wanted to but because they got stuck somewhere along the stages of recovery.

So by knowing these stages and how the process of recovery works, you gain an added advantage of getting over your ex or the lost of someone dear just by applying them wisely.

The stages of getting over someone

  • The stage of denial: This is the first stage of getting over someone. This is the stage where you completely refuse the existence of what happened; as with the case of someone who died. When it occurred and you refuse to accept the truth, at this moment, you're in the stage of denial but usually, this stage doesn't last long before you move to the second stage.
  • The stage of anger: In most cases, when people get over the first stage, they jump into the anger stage and this only happens when you must have accepted what happened, right? This is the stage where some people begin to retaliate against the other person in order to pay them with same coin. Normally, people don't usually stay long in this stage as they move to the next.
  • The stage of bargaining: The first and second stages aren't that effective as the bargaining stage. This is the stage where you start thinking and visualizing about the person. Sometimes, wait to expect phone calls from them and go certain places with the hope to meet them there. In my book; 'Getting over your ex in few days', I explained how the gaining stage tends to hinder recovery and how the same bargaining stage could be used to get over someone you love. Most of the people I happened to met in the past usually get stuck at this stage. They're usually try to get things back to normal and when they fail, they get depressed.
  • The stage of depression: This stage usually occurs as a result of the bargaining stage. Both of them usually go together. When someone starts contemplating between hope and lost of hope, the next that follows is depression and depression usually arise as a result of failure in the bargaining stage to get things back as usual.
  • The stage of acceptance: This is the process where you completely accept the breakup and continue to move on with life as usually. This process happens only when you've completely lost hope of ever getting back together. Very few people managed to reach the stage of acceptance and those who did recover very fast.
  • The stage of recovery: This is the final stage of getting over someone because those who managed to reach this stage completely recovered. This is the stage where everything goes back to normal again; at least, when life used to be normal.

Final say on getting over someone

As you can see from the above mentioned, the reasons why many people hardly or never recover after the lost of someone isn't because they wanted to, but because, along the line, they get stuck somewhere around the bargaining or the depression stage.

And in most cases, this resulted as a result of their false belief systems about breakups gathered from social heredity and social programming from closed people.

So by knowing the various stages of getting over someone, you stand a better chance of not getting stuck at any of the levels.

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The book 'Getting over your ex in few days' is by far the only book online that tackles the subject of forgetting someone in just few days, with simplified steps. The methods contained in it are methods that work and those who used it said same. See details...

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