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Written by: Raymond Fohjem

I donít feel confident around people

Reasons why you lack self-confidence

Have you noticed that when around certain, you tend to feel secure when it comes to confidence?
But at the same time, why is it that among others, you appear not to feel confident?
Do you know that, there account for many reasons and causes of such mood swing habit either caused on your part or on theirs?

But in most cases, this happens based on the state of your mind. This is highly due to the fact that what you feel inside also affects your physical presence.

In this article, I will not be talking on how to spot out a confident person since it focuses on why you may lack the feeling of confidence around certain people and that is just what I am going to be talking in this article.

Why I donít feel confident around people

You donít feel confident around people because of how you rate them in your mind. This is because, when you see someone the very first time and start examining the person base on certain criteria like his looks, wealth, knowledge, ability etc. the possibility that you will lack confidence each time around him/her is very high.

  • Comparison: Another reason as to why you donít feel confident around people boils down to your ability of always making comparison. This is a good step for someone trying to improve in life but at the same time, this approach may be very dangerous if you donít apply it properly. This is because, in most situations, when you make this comparison and failed, the possibility that you will lack self-confidence is high, right? For example, if you were trying to compare your ability or your facial features with someone and discover that he beats you, the normal consequence is that you will always feel the opposite each time around him.
  • Self-guilt: Almost everyone knows about self-guilt but very few people know how to spot this in other people. But at the same time, do you know that when we are guilty of something, we tend to feel unsecure around the targeted people? It is no wonder why detectives easily spot out criminals using their guilty conscience and that same thing happens with self-confidence. When you are guilty, you tend to feel unsecure around your victims.
  • Inferiority complex: In most cases, one of the reasons as to why you donít feel confident around people boils down to your state of mind and this is nothing more than the feeling of inferiority complex. This is because, if you feel you are not good looking, each time you come across someone more attractive, the tendency that you will tend to feel uneasy is very high, right? and this weakens your self-confidence. So if this is your weakness, then, until you get rid of this false habit, you will always lose your self-confidence around these people.
  • Your confidence was shaken: A good reason as to why you always lack the feeling of confidence around people is as a result that your self-confidence was shaken the very first day and this is very common around us, but just that we donít usually realise it. A good example of this may be when a boy who wants to approach a girl for the very first time. If he underestimates her beauty and suddenly approaches her and discovers that she was really beauty and instead to continue and he leaves, then, his self-confidence has been shaken and so, he will always lack the feelings of confidence each time he comes around her. As you can see, another reason why you donít feel confident around people maybe when you underestimated their criteria.

How to become self-confidence

In most of my self-confident and self-esteem articles, I usually say that lack of self-confidence comes not from outside but from your inner-self.

For example, in this article, you must have probably discovered that lack of self-confidence comes from your state of mind.

This therefore means that, in order to build a solid self-confident system, you must first start by eliminating these false beliefs in your mind one after the other and when you do that, you wonít see any reason feeling uneasy around fellow people who also have flaws as yourself.

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