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Written by: Raymond Fohjem

How to win an argument

How to win an argument

This article does not in any way encouraging argument with people nor using it against others falsely. The purpose behind this article is intended to help you safeguard your rights when necessary and not to use it tricking others, right?

Do you know why people challenge us in arguments that we were supposed to win? Why did they win? They won not because we were not right but because we did not know how the path of argument looks like.

When we fail to adopt the rules of argument, we are bound to be defeated, the same with other principles in life.

Why do people get defeated in arguments?

There are reasons why it may be difficult for someone to win an argument. But one thing that is certain is that, after every defeat of an argument, if you look critically, you will discover where they went wrong.

Why do they went wrong? This has to do with lack of inadequate knowledge of the present argument or lack of experience how the subconscious mind of the other person works. Am not saying that in order to win an argument, you have to be an expert or a judge. No, far from that.

You do not necessarily need to know so much in order to win an argument, all you have to do is to make your victim receptive and impose your point and there you are.

How to win an argument

In order to win any argument, you have to first of all have enough knowledge of the subject at hand. This is because, as human beings, we only say what we know and not what we don’t know, right?

So, how would you argue something you don’t understand yourself? That will be like trying to convince an astronaut of his ideas about the moon when you have never been to the moon nor acquire any knowledge about it.

You don’t need to go directly and start arguing with them because you know much. Using that approach, they will never accept defeat because you’re now posing to them as challenge.

The first thing will be to identify where their worries and doubts are coming from. Are they trying to defend the subject positively or negatively? You can do this by first asking them to give their reasons for their point.

From what they say, you will know their level of knowledge and reasoning. In this case, you will either have to decrease or increase your level to match theirs. This is because, if you understand that their reasoning faculty is low and you start saying thinks that are above them, you will never win in that approach since they will not understand some of your points and examples. That will be like telling a nice story to a dump which he will never appreciate.

Start tackling their points

The next step will be to start tackling each of their points and doubts until they now become receptive. And this can only be done when you must have clear every of their doubts. You will know when their worries are no more when they start talking very little or without having to raise their voices.

This is the point where you now start giving them enough reasons to support your points. And one of the ways to successfully do this is by stating each point and with real life examples that they also know, right?

At this point, they will be left with nothing other than to be receptive to you thereby accepting what you will say. So the more statements you give at this point couple with real life facts, the more they became receptive and that is how you win an argument.

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