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Written by: Raymond Fohjem

How to choose a life partner

6 ways on how to choose a life partner

All of us know that the aim of any relationship existing between a male and female in most cases is headed towards marriage. Still the manner in which some people go about it makes me wonder if marriage is just some kind of in-and-out game or a gate way of testing or trying people.

In the past, this issue alone worried me till the extent I began propping gradually into it until I was certain. I got to understand that many people dive straight into it not for the sake of it itself but for the sake of their unmet needs and self-desires.

I'm not against how they go about it, it's their life and they have to correct the future by learning from their deeds. At least they can now caution others on how to choose a life partner in order not to get burnt as them. Let me drop it at this level since this article isn't talking about tutors.

This article focuses on how you can choose a life partner while avoiding the things that usually lead people into wrong choices of marital mates.

But before I proceed further, I want you to know that I can only show you the choices but you have to decide the choice. This is your future I'm talking about here. So, the kind of choice you'd make will certainly predict your future marital life as well, right? So forget about fantasies and take the right decision.

6 ways on how to choose a life partner

A survey that was carried out in June 2009 proved that people who got divorced happened to be lacking in most if not all of the below stated. So be conscious about the following steps;

  1. Easy to get along: One of the main reasons why some marriages become unsuccessful boils down on the lack of understanding among themselves. This therefore implies that when choosing a life partner make sure you choose someone you can get along even in down times (when things are rough). Marriage isn't all about fantasies but sometimes real facts step in.
  2. Carryout courtship: How do you know that he/she is the right person for life? Do you just know it? Sometimes, basing on our instinct may disappoint us. In order to choose a better match, just forget about your gut-instinct and the recommendation gotten from others. Don't rush things. Spend enough time doing courtship. At least this gives you the chance to get to know him/her better.
  3. What about love? Almost all relationship is based on love and that's where for better or for worse steps in. If you were making the choice among two or more lovers, try to to spot out who loves you most. In case you're not sure how to do this, see this article 'Signs to show that someone loves you' for detail explanation.
  4. Common interest and traits: It's highly recommended that when choosing someone for life, choose someone whom you guys equally share common interest. For instance, things might get rough if you live with someone who is opposite to you who likes sport and you don't, who likes going clubbing and you don't, likes smoking and you don't. Therefore look for someone that you guys can equally share in same activities, right? At least this brings about a sense of commitment in each other
  5. About responsibly: In most of my articles about marriage, I always emphasis about responsibility because I know what it means in any given relationship. I'm a responsible man. Concerning your partner, how does he behaves among others? Does he tolerate criticism? Are his friends responsible as well? How does he connect with his family members, is there a sense of unity? You're the one to make that choice.
  6. Resourcefulness: Finally, when making a choice for a life partner, also predict how you guys are going to survive after marriage and in future as well. If you're a lady, make sure your guy is resourceful to provide for the daily basic commodities and needs that accompanied married life. And the reverse is true if you're a guy, right? Make sure your girl can also provide if she could during your down moments, right? I know you might be psyched about this but remember that it takes both to form a successful marriage.

Final say on how to choose a life partner

Very few people know about the above stated facts. The majority of people who considered these criteria before heading for marriage or any other form of relationship usually met with some degree of achievement.

So on your path, you're the one to make the choice. After all, you're the one to go into the relationship and not others. So, be conscious about every steps taken in order to meet with joy and happiness with your partner. Good Luck.

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