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Written by: Raymond Fohjem

How to accept yourself

How to accept who you are

When I was still learning about self-help and also wanted to improve on my self-confidence, I went to one local self-help counselling centre in town. When I got there, I had to seat on a bench there while waiting since the young counsellor was already with a lady. I was actually hearing what they were discussing since I was just about two steps away from them.

One of the things the man kept repeating to this lady was to accept herself before she can get over her worries. There was no way I could have remained there so I had to leave without accomplishing my mission there. This was because I saw many things wrong with what the young counsellor was saying. Among all what he said, what really irritated me was the fact that he kept repeating the same phrase (accept yourself) to her.

Unlike the counsellor, I have also seen many websites online that when talking about self-acceptance, they kept repeating one and same phrases; accept yourself, love yourself, accept who you are etc.

I don’t see anything wrong with this but at the same time, how would you love yourself when your subconscious mind doesn’t really like who you really are? How would you accept yourself when you don’t like appearance?

How could someone kept telling you to accept yourself when you are having many problems with yourself? So how comes would you accept yourself? I see something wrong with that and that is one of the reasons I decided to write this article; how you can actually accept yourself rather than just repeated phrases.

How to accept yourself as you are

One of the main reasons some people do not like their selves boils down on their weaknesses. This simply implies that, if you don’t like yourself, then, there must be something hindering you and this is nothing more than your inner weakness.

So, in order to accept yourself, you have to first work on your flaws only then can you love or accept yourself and that is how the subconscious mind works. Unless your subconscious mind accepts who you are, you can never accept yourself. There are many ways to do this.

For example, if you discovered that you don’t like the way you look, your subconscious mind will always look for ways to proof it back to you. In this case, working on your looks or doing some exercises to shape your body will actually make you appreciate yourself, right? The same thing happens if you have no friend or belong to a relationship.

In such case, it will actually be impossible for someone to just tell you to accept yourself without targeting the real cause of the problem. In this situation, you must first get rid of what you dislike about yourself and the only way this can be done is by socializing in order to make new friends if you discovered that the real problem lies with your social life.

Get rid of your past failures

There are others who may find it difficult to accept who they are probably because of their failures to realise their desires in life . In most cases, this has to do with people who aimed for high plans and could not get there. Due to their failures, it will be difficult to love themselves.

In order to accept themselves, they must first work on their past failures in order to turn them into reality and only when they have done that, would they be able to become happy with themselves like any other successful person.

As you can see, accepting yourself is not difficult, it’s just nothing more than spotting out what you dislike about yourself and work on it. When you do that, you will be proud at all time with yourself.

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